Partners

The other evening after dinner, Ashley went upstairs—I thought to bed.  But then started hearing some noises, not being able to identify the clanging and screeching, I muted the TV and waited. 

“Will you please come help me?”, Ashley asks

“Sure, what are you doing? “ As I come up the steps I see Ash wrangling a ladder.  “What’s going on?“

“I’m changing the light blub over the tub. I need you to be here just in case.”

“I really miss being the butch in this relationship.”

Ashley looked at me with her big brown eyes, “Me too!”

I would never identify myself as masculine.  I’m a tomboy, always have been, but I am in touch with my feminine side as well.  I’ve always had great balance, speed, and the ability to fix things around the house.  Well, that’s changed – a lot!

I really have to recognize the changes Ashley is going through due to the stroke.  Her life has changed too.  I was the breadwinner, now she is.  I did all the driving, now she does, I did all grocery shopping, now she does.  And the list goes on and on.

I’m so blessed with a wonderful partner.  She takes such good care of me and keeps me on the right path.  In turn, I take care of her in ways she needs.  We have a good balance. 

I’ll never forget the moment I fell in love with Ashley.  We were at a national conference for oncology social workers.  Ashley was receiving their top honor.  A colleague was introducing her and it seemed to take at least ten minutes, (Ashley is very accomplished).  When her friend finished, Ashley stepped up to the microphone and said, “Thank you, Susan. I don’t know who you were introducing, but they sound awesome!” 

She’s had my heart ever since.